Managing Emotions

For those who follow our instagram account you may have noticed that we have been talking about mental health and in this instance, about BPD or Boarderline Personality Disorder.

BPD is very interesting because it is widely spread (about 20% of people have it) and yet it is rarely talked about or understood. From my understanding, BPD is about fluctuations between extreme feelings of happiness and sadness. This leaves a BPD person with tons of highly charged emotions that are difficult to control or manage.

When I posted the information about BPD on social media, many people said "this sounds like me". While I think most of those people do not have BPD, I think most of us can relate to this.

Managing emotions is a vital life tool that can save us from making reckless choices, being able to create and sustain meaningful relationships, finding our life purpose, understanding who we are and what we stand for, expressing emotions in a skilful way and seeing clearly.

I am a true believer that "the body weeps tears that the eyes cannot shed". I believe that all emotions should be expressed and processed in a healthy and productive way as opposed to suppressing or denying them. Nobody is exempt from emotions, yet some of us deal with them more easily than others, and I wonder why.

It is such a complex topic that I won't be able to nor know how to cover here. Does the mind effect the emotions or do emotions effect the mind? Is it a genetic thing? Does it come from previous traumas? Can people be retrained to look at emotions differently?

Perhaps the answer to all of the above is "sometimes". But what I think what "always" is possible, is that we try or even consider, whenever we can, to have compassionate understanding of others explosive reaction that might seem dramatic, even when we don't completely understand it.
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