Can We Agree?

​September 2018 Newsletter - Can We Agree?
“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.”
― Kahlil Gibran
Words have power. They have the power to open up minds and hearts and to create the ugliest of wars. It worries me how most of us stop ourselves from speaking in a constructive way in an attempt to avoid conflict OR to speak out of fear which comes out judgemental and hurtful.

Can we collectively find loving ways to communicate our needs, thoughts and advice? Can we constantly keep our eyes on love, speaking with the intention of making things right rather than being right?

Can we agree to say "I want us to reach a compromise that makes us both as happy as possible" instead of saying "You are selfish" and to say "what would make you feel more relaxed about this?" instead of saying "You are controlling" and to say "I need your care, love and affection" instead of saying "You are mean"

Can we agree to avoid calling one another names? Calling names is toxic and useless. When we call someone a name we are judging them, we are unable to separate the action from the person. And when we judge someone, we cannot love them.

Can we agree to listen with the intention of healing instead of defending? When someone says something, can you listen with a heart that wants to improve both the situation and ourselves?

Can we agree to drop the idea of win and loose and work as a team. No one person can make it work. No one needs to win, but everyone needs to feel loved. 

Can we agree to show our love not only with words but also through actions? Can we agree to become the person you wish the other person would be? To treat them with our own values rather than with revenge?

Can we agree to cancel revenge all together? Can we also agree to cancel any idea of not knowing what we are all worth? 

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