Saying Goodbye

There is no doubt that one of the most challenging lessons we face in life as humans, and spiritual beings, come from our interactions with other people.

Our suffering comes from disappointing and being disappointed, hurting and being hurt, our inability to love and our inability of feel loved. And so relationships of all forms act like a great guidance system to point us to the wounded parts of ourselves.

Some relationships are really difficult to be in and yet we remain in them because we are attached. We remain in relationships that hurt us because we fear that what this person is providing cannot be fulfilled from within us.

Some relationships are important to remain in and yet we run from them because they're "too much". We deprive ourselves chances of reconciliation, forgiveness and tolerance because we are too scared of our own demons.

And other relationships we cherish deeply within our hearts and yet there remains nothing in them. Some relationships stop teaching us how to grow, do not help us feel connected, bring about no suffering, no lessons and no happiness either. Some relationships are ones we are attached to yet we are very aware they do not serve us any longer. They stop challenging us, and they stop bringing us joy. They are like a class we have graduated and yet insist on staying in.

Those relationships can be compared to a bite of the most delicious food. You start chewing and there is so much joy in the taste, and effort in the chewing, and yet at some point the bite is completely chewed and there is no taste left. When there is no forgiveness to give, no suffering in walking away, no suffering in staying either, is it then the right time to say goodbye?

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