We make assumptions. All. The. Time. Some assumptions are reasonable, helpful. They help us navigate through life in a way that is practical and understandable. And many assumptions we make are designed to make us feel miserable.
When we assume that someone behaved in a way that is dismissive towards us because they don't care about us, that assumption hurts us. When we assume that we will not been given the opportunities in life that helps us achieve our potential, that assumption holds us back from trying. When we assume that our talent doesn't matter, we don't grow it. When we assume that someone is not behaving in a loving way towards us because we are unworthy of their love, our self esteem is affected and so on.
Let's be clear, pessimistic assumptions are not more realistic. They are the cynical and easy. Those assumptions are lies. And even if they were true they would be true in a very limited way, or limited to a time or a person. Those assumptions are not facts. We cannot take them seriously.
Although it is always better to seek the truth, to ask better questions, that is not always possible. So I am here to propose that we begin to make better assumptions. Assumptions that make us happier. Assumptions that might be as big of a lie as the cynical assumptions and yet they make us feel better. Can I assume that a dismissive behaviour was because that person is dealing with a crisis? Or that opportunities are on the way? That my talents will change lives? That someone is not loving because they had not been loved?
If you will lie to yourself anyway, make it a happy lie.
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Weam is the founder of Namaste. She had started a very deep and intense spiritual journey at a young age having refused to continue to suffer with the common challenges of her generation: depression, anxiety and being lost. She insisted that there must be more to life than the constant rat race she was in